Why it has taken me 10 years to do so is a long story, but one I think a lot of women can relate to.
As a freshman in high school I cut my hair very short. I overheard a guy that I had a HUGE crush on say that he hated girls with short hair. I subsequently grew my hair longer. Said guy became my boyfriend. Broke up with him, chopped off my hair. Grew my hair out again, started dating him again, broke up with him again, chopped off my hair.
I struggle to label myself a feminist because the “ist” sounds like I think I am better than a man. However, it is a little pathetic how much I have always tied my femininity to the feedback I receive from men.
Also pathetic is how I let insignificant crap from high school impact my self-perception for such a long time.
I find it ironic how such a “boyish” cut makes me feel more feminine and confident than ever, but I LIKE it.