Kayla K’s Happy Day
This morning I was happily watching the Today show and enjoying my coffee at Spencer’s when I was happy to discover Gretchen Rubin! I have looked at her blog on occasion and am always interested in what she has to say.
Gretchen is the creator of the Happiness Project, which is an account her year trying out all of the expert advice on how to be happier. Now she’s the expert, along with Dr. Ian Smith. I enjoyed the interview and was really struck by Gretchen’s statement to know what makes you happy, not to do it for others.
This is an issue I have been struggling with. I have a lot of expectations for which activities I should enjoy but end up being not-so-happy after I “enjoy” them.
Take “going out,” for example. I really want to be asked to go out with friends. I want them to call me and tell them which bar to meet them at. However, I don’t actually want to go. I want to want to go, and I want my friends to want me to go, but I hate bars. They are loud and crowded. I hate noise and crowds. I spending hate $7 on a single drink instead of an entire bottle of wine to be enjoyed by myself, in the comfort of my own home. Going to bars does not make me happy.
I also want to want to travel. I want to love to travel. My school offers a study-abroad program to student teach in Norway for eight weeks. I have never traveled abroad and thought I needed to do this. I went so far as to crunch numbers to figure out a way to afford it. People tell me that travel changes their lives, that I will never be complete without travel. But I have realized that I do not care to leave this country. I am sad when I cannot see Spencer for one week, much less eight weeks. I hate feeling like I do not have a home, having my things split three ways. I don’t like to be miss independent- I want to care for people, pets, and plants. I am not impressed by flying and hate close quarters, ears popping, turbulence, and crappy food. I like it here in America, specifically here in Iowa.
The other side of this issue is enjoying the things I am not supposed to. I love to watch television. I know that educated intelligent people are supposed to hate TV but I definitely do not. I really like wine, cosmic brownies, and oatmeal cream pies. I like to spend money on clothes and shoes more than anything else.
So… I am on the road to discovering what makes me happy. Today I was very happy to enjoy the beauty of Northeast Iowa on a trip home to see my mom, to eat delicious fish, to chat with my parents, to buy embroidery thread for tea towels, to discover crochet thread and a porcelain bowl at the Treasure Chest, and to see my little sister when she got home from school. Maybe I am so happy because I made my bed this morning, which apparently is the best thing to do to increase happiness.
So… what makes you happy that should not?
Or, what should make you happy that does not?